In the year I’ve spent blogging about Asian/white relationships, one question was asked more than others. Sometimes this question was put forth by people wanting a thoughtful answer; other times, it was aggressively thrown at me as a way of … Continue reading
Actual dialogue between my white boyfriend and I yesterday night: “Honey, when you look at me, do you feel colonial?” “What are you talking about?” “Am I a proxy for you to sexualize all Asian women?” “Are you on the Internet again?” … Continue reading
It’s been over a year since I started blogging about my conflicted feelings over being an Asian girlfriend to a white boyfriend, and how I grapple with the abundant negative stereotypes out there about my kind of romantic pairing. I’ve … Continue reading
Falling in love today is a bigger pain in the butt compared to eighty years ago, and for that I blame globalization. Back when my grandparents married, they had the usual concerns about compatibility based on age, temperament and family … Continue reading
Children hating their parents isn’t uncommon. Hating your parents because they’re too strict, too stodgy, too stifling — been there, felt that, like every other rebellious teen has. How about hating your parents for their races? That’s a whole different … Continue reading
My boyfriend is more than a decade older than me, a pasty white guy from the American Midwest, and shorter than me by a few inches. Guess which factor my Asian parents are most upset about. *** I was born … Continue reading
Firstly, thank you to everyone who read and passed on my last post about the Asian girlfriend complex. It’s been great connecting with other Asian girlfriends who feel the same way, non-Asian girlfriends who sympathize, and — very interesting, because … Continue reading
