Actual dialogue between my white boyfriend and I yesterday night: “Honey, when you look at me, do you feel colonial?” “What are you talking about?” “Am I a proxy for you to sexualize all Asian women?” “Are you on the Internet again?” … Continue reading
It’s been over a year since I started blogging about my conflicted feelings over being an Asian girlfriend to a white boyfriend, and how I grapple with the abundant negative stereotypes out there about my kind of romantic pairing. I’ve … Continue reading
Falling in love today is a bigger pain in the butt compared to eighty years ago, and for that I blame globalization. Back when my grandparents married, they had the usual concerns about compatibility based on age, temperament and family … Continue reading
I have a confession to make — there have been many moments throughout my time in China where I’ve thought, really thought, about how nice it would be if my boyfriend and I could switch ethnicities. Yup. You got that … Continue reading
To answer a reader’s recent question: Yes, I’m still learning Mandarin at XXX location, and no, the lovely Teacher Wang no longer teaches me and I have no more fun leftover women (shengnu) Venn diagrams to share. I miss her energy … Continue reading
Firstly, thank you to everyone who read and passed on my last post about the Asian girlfriend complex. It’s been great connecting with other Asian girlfriends who feel the same way, non-Asian girlfriends who sympathize, and — very interesting, because … Continue reading
There is a phantom in my relationship, and I’m trying to come up with a good way to describe it. Guilt? No, that sounds wrong. I don’t feel guilty for being happy, for being with someone who brings me joy. … Continue reading
